(Originally posted on 06-14-10) Life is crazy. I'm learning more and more about myself as the years go on. You would think that by 30 one would have something figured out. But, no. Am I changing? Are my opinions changing? Or am I just beginning to learn the real me? It's a mystery.
One thing that I learned in one of my psych classes that always stuck with me was the fact that in times of stress we tend to judge ourselves by external factors, while we judge others by internal qualities. For example, if a person is late for a meeting or doesn't contribute to a project, we think of that person as lazy or irresponsible. But, if we're late for a meeting or do less than our part, we are quicker to say that it was the traffic, or home stress, etc. That's interesting to me. I've thought long and hard about this for some time. I hope that just by being aware of this fact it makes me less judgmental, but probably not. I think that this is just one of our coping mechanisms. Because if we truly knew how selfish, uncaring, or inconsiderate we could be, it would be a total overload to our systems. So we continue to pass incorrect judgment where it does not belong and think highly of ourselves when we do not deserve it. I am beginning to learn that this is a part of life. Selah.
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